Most of us want world peace but before we can have world peace, we’ve got to get a handle on what it takes to maintain healthy peaceful relationships.
So it stands to reason that healthy relationships, establishing them and maintaining them, should rank high on our list of priorities.
Like everything good in life, a good relationship takes time, effort and commitment. Without these love just isn’t worth the hurt
and pain.
We all wonder when reading romance novels or seeing films, if the heroine and hero will end up happily married.
Of course, even when the ending is unhappy, the value of love triumphs as in the movie, like Bridges of Madison County. After all, a lost love is better than no love at all
It takes two to make a good marriage into a profitable relationship. It takes two to squander love. To the question “Are you happy?”…up to 99% Of all would say No.
Here’s the thing – sometimes love spoils. It does not stay fresh forever. Since biology gives men have seven to eight times more testosterone than us, this may account for so many sexual affairs outside of marriage.
Jerry Springer has showed us there is a lot of fighting over who beds who. Once trust is broken, it is almost impossible to forget. Maybe, love should be like a contract, either enforced or prosecuted.
Stephany Alexander, relationship expert says, according to an adultery poll of over 5,000 women on WomanSavers.com, over 52% said they believe adultery should be prosecuted in courts.
In early 2007 an Arizona court prosecuted two married adulterers for the first time in over 30 years.
Why do so many of us give our power over to others? Gloria Steinem, the well-known feminist says, “Power can be taken, but not given; The process of the taking is empowerment in itself.”
What defines us is the courage and confidence to “take control quietly or loudly.” I think in most instances, power can be defined as inclusive depending on respect. What is important to learn is that we’re all stronger than we think.
If you’re like me love and life has beaten you up a bit? Maybe, you are so worn out and hurt that your self-esteem is too low to even try another relationship.
Our happiness depends on picking someone that shows respect to us; somehow we can trust; someone who likes us first and someone who can love us the way we need to be loved.
I like to think we all get what we deserve but it is not hard to fall in love with someone that charms you; especially, when you’re lonely or have no or little self-esteem.
No one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist who is a great charmer as well as a liar. If you come in contact with someone with any two of the following traits, run for the hills:
Grandiose perception of self and talents
Someone with no empathy for the feelings of others
Prolonged intensity of anger, distrust or inability to control impulses
One who declares love you almost immediately
One who seems too good to be true
One who lies about everything with no reason
The word itself narcissistic is derived from an ancient Greek legend, the story of Echo and Narcissus.
The god Apollo was so angered by Narcissus’ pride and self-satisfaction in his own appearance, he condemned him to die without ever knowing human love. Narcissus eventually died alone and unloved beside the pool.
The latest marital breakups all over the news include Celebrities, Sandra Bullock and her husband, Jesse; and then there is Tiger and his wife, Erin.
Now we hear that Arnold Schwarzenegger fathered a love child with his Nanny? Arnold was a respected actor, body builder and popular Governor – – not to mention married to one of the Maria Shriver, a Kennedy.
We all know they weren’t thinking with their heads. These are all good men, good husbands and wonderful providers. I imagine they knew they were doing wrong just couldn’t or wouldn’t stop seeing other women.
They were considered good husbands; heroes, in fact, strong, macho and faithful. The problem remains most of us act on impulse.
Perhaps, Tiger, Jesse and Arnold all had delusions of superior adequacy. Perhaps, they were all are narcissists. Maybe, their wives fed their delusions by trusting them implicitly.
I agree with Judge Judy when it comes to relationships, if something doesn’t make sense, it probably isn’t true.
We laugh at Charlie on Two and a Half Men and his narcissism; but in reality, narcissists do not make good companions or lovers. Oh, what a tangled web they weave their stories full of Lies, Lies and More Lies.
If you are curious about the effects of narcissism on relations, look up The Narcissism Book…
There can be a brutal change in a narcissist; all the more shocking because of what they appear to be. Their rage is indescribable, unnerving and frightening.
They can be like a total strange Jekyll and Hyde. It is exhausting to know them; and it can be like clinging to the edge of a cliff 24 hours a day, to have a relationship with them.
In summary, relationships, can make us or break us. Family ties, love relationships and friendships all play a huge role in our overall happiness factor. To get a handle on love, we listen to love songs, watch romantic movies and write love poems.
There is more written about love and romance than any other subject. Enjoy my own take on the inception of first love in the following poem, i.e.,
The Birth Of Venus By Botticelli:
I could imagine being Venus, when blown towards shore by the gods of passions, born an adult woman with a seductively long neck, and shoulders that bow in reverence to man and his whims;
the gods gave us a good lesson when they turned a son’s hatred for his father into eternal love; out of the sea she came, probably the first cultured pearl birthed from castrated genitals;
I imagine her eyes were emerald green, and her hair was the color of yellow tulips, and in my head, she looked like a Britney, she never knew hunger,
she feasted on poppies and wild flowers, sang and danced her days away, and like most women, she was many, a lover of man, a nurturer, and a demon when unattended and uncelebrated;
she represented that paradoxical attraction and destruction between lovers, wielding hersword of contemot with palms filled with our pre-destiny to love and be loved..
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Joyce White
